Hey girl, It's never too late. It's always overwhelming and intimidating, though. I think. I struggled with weight ups and downs and yo yo dieting pretty much my whole life, I remember it back as early as 7 years old (and feeling incredibly self conscious in my gymnastics outfits).
I still have my struggles, mostly with overeating and over dieting at this point (getting into that diet head mentality is so, so awful and really counterproductive to lasting weight loss). I totally feel you on this. Two things I've observed over the years of doing nutritional work is that 1. Lasting life style changes have to happen which means that your diet of choice has to work for you physically, emotionally, mentally, socially, and financially, and 2. No one things works exactly the same for different people.
It's best to add in healthy stuff. For example, before your dinner, add a salad with your favorite salad dressing and veggies. For me that is usually baby spinach, avocado, tomatoes, some diced shallots, lemon juice, maybe some sea salt and diced garlic or stevia or agave nectar to sweeten the salad a bit. Some would like a tbsp of olive oil. Then, you can start to replace things like white pasta with whole grain pasta, such as spelt, and trade white rice for brown rice, or cow dairy for goat dairy.
It can seem overwhelming at first but there are healthy substitutes for all unhealthy foods at this point! Let me know if I can help you in any way. I have posted a lot of things on my blog over the years but I know how beneficial and often necessary that hand held guidance is, especially if you want to make lasting change.
You're welcome, and I just wanted to mention, don't be hard on yourself if you've gained weight during a tough year, which I know you've had. Food is so easy to turn to when you just don't want to think about something, and it's not like alcohol or drugs where you can just abstain completely and survive! It's a difficult thing to lose weight, especially when you are sad.
And I agree with what Mare said below, I think when you're trying to make significant changes, you really have to be honest with your weaknesses and stay away from certain foods and keep your goals/desires as your center or most focused thought. It's too easy to trick yourself into thinking you can NEVER change. It's so hard, but definitely doable.
It also helps to find things that are healthy that feel indulgent to you. For me, I was OBSESSED (Still am) with ice cream pretty much my whole life. Cookies n cream, ice cream cones, ice cream sandwiches, ice cream cake LOL you get the picture, so now, for me, the ultimate indulgence is banana ice cream (you basically just break up ripe bananas, put them in plastic bags in the freezer, and then put then in the food processor until you have this creamy dreamy banana soft serve ice cream thing). You can use them in a blender, too, with some water or almond milk, a couple tbsp of cocoa powder and stevia or agave for a chocolate milkshake. This is the ultimate indulgent dessert for me because I can eat so much of it and I LOVE it and it doesn't weigh me down and doesn't have any sort of negative effect on my body like eating a pint of haggen daz does.
For exercise, long walks with my daughter, especially in this weather is the greatest. It feels so good to me. Also my Tracy Anderson dance routines LOL as mentioned in our private group!
That's just one example but this is a very individual thing.
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